By Pastor Robin Wiley
Exodus 20: 1-17 (read on your own)
Matthew 5:23-24
Anger
21 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. 23 So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
“Can you tell me any of the Ten Commandments?” I asked the students one week during a Wednesday night study. One of the lessons I was covering referred to the commandment about idols. I remember not one person (except our adult leaders) had an answer. I was a little shocked but then realized this was a study we had never specifically covered in the past.
When I asked the kiddos if they thought the commandments were significant or important to know them as a believer – most, if not all, of the students carelessly shrugged and shook their heads no. From that point, I looked for a good series on RightNow Media to use and came upon one by Albert Tate, a pastor, author, and speaker.
Through each of his lessons, he effectively communicates the list of laws as a love letter” from God to his people on how to honor him as he has loved us first through the years.[1] For each commandment – Tate gives it a shorter, more loving approach for remembering them.
*God First *Love through forgiveness
*No substitutes *Love though faithfulness
*Honor His Name *Love through contentment
*Rest & Enjoy *Love through encouragement
*Love through satisfaction
His way of describing God’s love to us in this letter; is both vertical and horizontal. The first four commandments tell us how God wants us to love Him by putting Him first, having no other substitutes, always honoring His name and fourthly – remembering to rest and enjoy. All this because God. Loved. Us. First. The other six commandments tell us how we can show God’s love in our relationships with others, because God’s commandments are not a threat, but an invitation[2]. He invites us to be part of His story, by showing us His heart with loving words just like a caring father keeping his children safe and protected.
How we treat others reflects how much we honor God with our lives by following his commandments. Love is the driving force behind the final six laws and each one requires an action on our part. We can show God’s “love through honoring” our father and mother or by “loving through forgiveness” and not holding onto anger. This one was an interesting commandment to cover with the kiddos.
Regarding the fifth commandment – “You shall not murder,” Jesus teaches us in Matthew 5:21 that hating someone or holding onto anger for a long time is just like murder. That was an eye- opening thought to the teens. They know how easy it is to stay mad at a sibling or hold grudges against mean girls at school as an example. In our class that particular Sunday, they heard it was better to turn to God and make things right with their sin, and then in-turn, offer grace and forgiveness to others who wrong them.
Jesus is also teaching us in this passage that if our heart is in the wrong place toward his people, it affects our heart’s position to him. He calls us to reconcile with others so we can worship him with a full heart. Reconciliation is a vital part of our Christian faith and here, Jesus gives us a glimpse of what it looks like to live out the gospel in our own backyards. His teaching in Matthew 5 gives us a direct example of how our relationship with God affects our ability to love others and how our relationship with others affects how we love God.
Take time this week to ask God to reveal where you need to extend forgiveness to others. Or perhaps you need healing or forgiveness yourself – remember God has already forgiven you and loves you fully. We can forgive because He first forgave us.
Revisit the commandments in the book of Exodus when you get a moment and read it as if it’s a personal letter from God to you – with all His love!
Prayer: Thank you God, that you are a loving and forgiving God. Help me to see your commandments with fresh eyes on living them out in a way that honors and glorifies You. Bring to mind anyone that I have wronged so I can extend forgiveness, Also, please forgive me of anything I have done negatively that goes against your good plan for me. In Christ’s name I pray, Amen!
[1] Pastor Albert Tate, writer and presenter, “The Ten Commandments,” 10 sessions, RightNow Media, 2022.
[2] Ibid. Session 1 – “God First”